Me (25m) and my fiancé (24f) have been together for 3 years and some change and have been non monogamous for 1 year. Our bed room life is pretty lack luster. Going out and meeting people for hookups has become exhausting for me and I just can’t do it anymore. I find myself wanting to be more intimate with her than anyone else. But I’m turned down basically every time I try to initiate. She sends me TikToks about meeting a womens emotional needs before sex or how asking for sex is a turn off and creates too much pressure. I’m not dumb I get the hint, I make sure I’m more romantic (flowers, love letters, cooking her favorite meals and dancing to her favorite music) and I haven’t asked or initiated in two months. Still, nothing. She never initiates. She on the other hand has random hook ups with people all the time. Often doing things that I have wanted to do with her in the bedroom. Stuff she’s said no to when I ask. I just don’t understand how she can do this to total strangers and not me. They certainly aren’t meeting her emotional needs and are asking for sex. But it’s not a turn off, they hardly know each other more than a few hours. I’m just feeling so insecure about my body and myself in general. I’ve tried talking to her about this but she blows me off.